It was December 2020.
I was sitting in a dimly lit restaurant in Charlotte, NC. Tapas was the choice for dinner. Red-sauced meatballs, patatas bravas, charcuterie, and broccolini, among other morsels of goodness. š¤¤
We were nestled in a small booth with some of our closest friends in the corner. A couple my wife and I have known since before we were married (over 21 years).
The conversation was delightful.
Until we get to the topic of my businesses and how the year went.
āChris, how was the year business-wise?ā
āMeh, Iād rate it a 3 or 4 out of 10.ā
āHuh? Didnāt you say itās been your best year yet?ā
As a matter of fact, it was.
I grew my second 8-figure business within that year, my income tripled, I had a thriving real estate investing business and a great team, and my business just had an incredible valuation.
[BREAK]In my last letter, I announced the direction Iām taking things with The Good Steward.
(If youāre new to the community, read about it here. And welcome! š)
After growing several seven and 8-figure brands, accomplishing āmountain topā experiences and crashing. Ohhh, and putting my trauma on public display (š), I feel a different conversation needs to be had.
Every one of us adheres to a set of value systems.
The value system of the majority?
More.
Faster.
Higher.
Better.
Consumption.
I donāt know about you, but it was a constant thing that I couldnāt ever escape. Maybe Iām just crazy? Thatās possible.
It. Could. Never. Be. Satisfied.
Iāve had many conversations with successful entrepreneurs, and it seems the same.
Itās never enough. Ever.
Thatās how I felt in that restaurant, chewing on that delicious potato. My friends looked at me like I was crazy.
I was at the ātop.ā
It didnāt matter because, in my mind, it wasnāt good enough.
No matter how many levels, millions, planes, or accomplishments were achieved.
There was always more. There wasnāt an ounce of contentment, very little joy, and not much peace.
It was a form of slavery.
Slavery to a value system.
Slavery to what people think.
Slavery to more.
Slavery to higher highs.
Slavery to a culture of consumption.
Slavery to money.
Slavery to false identity.
Slavery to the rat race.
We think (as entrepreneurs) we control so much. The truth is we donāt control much. Think about it. We are the ones controlled. To me, thatās slavery.
Whatās the alternative?
Stewardship.
Why?
As a steward, everything I have is a gift, and itās borrowed. There is very little I actually need to thrive.
Stewardship is freedom. Stewardship is knowing that I have enough. Stewardship is profound abundance. Stewardship is care and nurturing for whatās been given to me. Stewardship is the ability to care and pour into others.
Stewardship is giving, and from that place, knowing that I can give of what I have IS freedom.
In our entrepreneurial community, so much of what we do and how we operate is based on taking.
Why?
Because I donāt have enough, itās never enough, so I need to get mine while I can.
I think thatās what I felt in that restaurant. Slavery to more.
What is a Good Steward?
To me, a good steward doesnāt live in lack.
Because of that, there is a fullness of life that no new car, new house, new course, new ālevelā new ____________ can fill.
A good steward understands everything they have is a gift.
A good steward gives.
A good steward isnāt in a hurry.
A good steward is intentional.
A good steward is a leader.
A good steward is a creator.
A good steward operates from courage, not fear.
A good steward lives from abundance, not scarcity.
A good steward serves.
A good steward prioritizes personal health.
A good steward prioritizes familial health.
A good steward plants, cultivates, and harvests.
A good steward cares.
A good steward leans in.
A good steward operates from margin.
A good steward walks in peace and joy.
There are many more things a good steward is. One of them is not perfect. And thatās okay.
Stewardship is an alternative to our modern culture’s constant hustle and hurry. Itās saying no to the culture of acquisitiveness.
Good things take time. Itās not easy.
But as Iāve been unearthing this concept over the last many months, Iāve never felt more significant levels of peace.
I want to invite you to this with me.
Takeaway: think about what this could mean for you. What applies? If anything resonates, lean in.
My goal will be to develop this from philosophy to frameworks so that it can apply to you. If you have feedback or thoughts, Iād love to hear them.
Thanks for being patient as I develop this.
In your corner,
Chris